A relationship between two people that turns into a lifetime commitment is one of the most serious bonds a person can forge in their lifetime. Those who understand the rules know that the choice between family or spouse should never become an issue, but they are occasionally fooled by circumstances. Those who choose their family will find their spouse becomes less of an issue because the relationship bond has been tattered, but others might be lucky enough to still have a chance to make repairs.
It would be nice if a spouse was right in every circumstance, but it is unrealistic to expect it. Those who find they agree with their family more than their spouse are many at times, but the wisest ones know it is best not to voice their thoughts. They realize their mixed feelings are not wrong, but exposing their partner to them could damage their relationship. They might disagree, but coming to the support of their family is still a mistake.
While the two of them might be able to discuss the issue in private, stressing the role of the family should be left out of the discussion. Even if a person is not choosing their family, it can appear to their partner that they are doing just that in a roundabout way. It is best to ensure their partner hears only their voice on the subject, and they must stress that their family has no place within the relationship.
It can be a difficult balancing act when dealing with issues that separate a spouse from a person’s family, but it is one that has been completed successfully millions of times. Those who found their way to the end of the high wire without slips or falls were the lucky ones, but even those who had small mishaps might have still reached their goal of a long and relatively happy relationship.